The alignment of perception and reality

Image courtesy of Cheeni via Wikimedia Commons

Image courtesy of Cheeni via Wikimedia Commons

Have you ever noticed how, when you’re driving and you let go of the steering wheel for a second, your car will start to drift slightly? Apparently your car’s not really supposed to do this, but I’ve found that even one that’s been going straight can have a natural inclination to the left or right if you let go of the wheel.

More and more, I feel like that’s how I am: Like if I don’t keep a tight grip on the metaphorical steering wheel of my behavior, my personality will naturally trend toward who I really am. Which wouldn’t be an issue if drifting toward the real me were the equivalent of edging slightly into the next lane. But lately, it seems the real me is instead more of a sharp veering off the road, through two lanes of traffic and into a storefront window advertising 5-cent copies and 24-hour laminating services.

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Gender inequality is dead—long live gender inequality

My mother once confided that what she had always wished for her kids was that my brother would be successful and rich in his chosen career… and that I would marry a loving, wealthy man who would take care of me.

Illustration by J. Howard Miller for Westinghouse, via Wikimedia Commons

Illustration by J. Howard Miller for Westinghouse, via Wikimedia Commons

“How come you didn’t wish for me to have a successful career so that I could get rich on my own?” I asked.

“Oh.” The question genuinely seemed to surprise her. “I don’t know… I guess it never occurred to me.”

This is not to say that I was discouraged from excelling at school, attending college or finding gainful employment after graduating. My mom, after all, is a Tiger Mom, and me doing poorly academically or with my post-college endeavors would no doubt have reflected badly upon her, and that would have been unacceptable. But whatever excellence I may have been able to attain on my own, apparently my parents would never have been able to rest easy had I not found a spouse who would provide for his little woman.

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Don’t try this at home, kids—even if it wasn’t so last year

Image courtesy of Sam Mugraby, Photos8.com, via Wikimedia Commons

Image courtesy of Sam Mugraby, Photos8.com, via Wikimedia Commons

The cinnamon challenge. If you didn’t know about it before, no doubt you’ve heard of it by now: It’s a big YouTube phenomenon where you swallow a spoonful of cinnamon and record it for posterity so that people the world over can see what a moron you are—and then try to replicate it themselves so they, too, will go down in YouTube infamy.

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The fast way to happiness

Image courtesy of Maya83 via Flickr

Image courtesy of Maya83 via Flickr

Ted often accuses me of picking something up on a whim—be it a new hobby or a new coffee table—and abandoning it just as quickly. Well, will he have to eat crow now, because I have entered my third week of fasting and in fact am finishing up yet another fast day as I write this!  I mean, someone will have to eat it, because I can’t. I’m fasting.

For those who did not read my post the other week about this, let me fill you in:

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